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Being Vulnerable

How The Courage To Be Vulnerable Can Change Your Life (VIDEO)

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” – Brené Brown

Ever since I could remember, I’ve been an open book. Some people consider that to be a weakness. I’ve come across so many people who are “private”, people who don’t want to speak about who they are or what their experience has been in order to protect themselves from the opinions of others and perhaps even themselves. We live in a world where we desire to “fit in”, we want the people we love to be proud of us and we have so many distractions that we can barely digest our deepest emotions. We become lost in a world that is so distracted by perfection that we lack love and concern for our feelings and soon, we don’t know what it is we feel unless we can speak about it.

So how do we practice vulnerability? How do we learn how to be honest with ourselves instead of being correct? How do we take on the courage to be vulnerable with ourselves in order to feel safe to be open with others?

Have The Courage To Be Honest With Yourself: I am sure you’ve all heard the saying before, “The Truth Shall Set You Free” When you are accepting of your emotions and your fears only then can you truly over come them. If you don’t confront what it is you are feeling, you can’t address it. Try talking about your fears to someone you feel comfortable with, someone who you believe won’t judge you this way you can come to terms with the feelings you are having. This isn’t necessarily because you need advice, but because you want to understand the depth of what you are feeling. 

Take Nothing Personally: We live in a world where people judge themselves. It is hard to find a spiritually strong person who loves themselves and are honest with others. It is important to understand that how people may react to your vulnerabilities is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. One of my favorite authors, Don Miguel Ruiz said, “Don’t take anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”

Prepare yourself to have the strength to be comfortable with your vulnerabilities. We are human and function the same way. No amount of money or confidence can take away anyones vulnerabilities. As a poet, I find that when I read my poetry to an audience, I am allowing people to relate and in turn they thank me for saying things that they couldn’t say. We are all experiencing different things. All scary and courageous things. Perhaps if we all start to be vulnerable, it may give people the courage to be vulnerable too. But remember, even if they aren’t at that emotional level of maturity, do not take it personally.

Practice Being Vulnerable: The more you practice being your true self, the easier it will become. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you have to tell everyone what you have been through, only the things that make you who you are. The things that you fear from time to time, and the things you’d like to discover in life. Be vulnerable in a positive way. 

Don’t miss this TED talk by Brené Brown. She is the author of Daring Greatly 

What would you like to get out of being vulnerable?

Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

A Successful Business Started By A 21 Year Old With A Small Budget

“The most important thing was not that I didn’t know, but that I wasn’t afraid to find out.” – Deanna Yang

Deanna at Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Deanna at Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Deanna Yang was a 21 year old with little to no money, no family around, and met a couple of friends who believed in her dreams and helped her get a milk and cookie bar off of the ground. In November 2013 she opened her business, made some mistakes, and still kept going. She is a young lady who let go of stability and a full time job to follow her dreams although she had no idea what was going to happen. It amazes me to see how many creative people there are who hold so much determination and will stop at nothing  to follow their hearts.

 

One thing is for sure, when having a goal and a dream, it is important to get help from others. In order for anything to flourish, it needs more than one person. A house becomes a home with more than one person nurturing it, a business grows and expands with a team of people, it takes more than one person to start and raise a family, and even orange trees need water and sunlight to thrive. This is a world that becomes greater when we have one another. Be true to those who love you. Embrace & appreciate the little things that help us flourish.

Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Here is an excerpt from her blog describing her determination and drive.

The very first thing on my Bucket List however, that a lot of you know about, was #1. Open a cookie shop. Whilst I am incredibly proud of Moustache & how far we’ve come in our first year of opening, I still feel like he is far from perfect…he’s currently only 2% of my version of perfection. Although I’m known to be incredibly harsh on myself. Despite being my baby and something I love & am proud of, I also feel like Moustache stole my soul and identity. Perhaps because his identity was the only one I had enough time to develop these past two years.

But I’m a sucker for all that airy-fairy shit. All that, wanting to be a better person, wanting to reach your potential and of course, chasing your dreams. Yep, I lap that stuff up because like I said, as a child, I promised myself that I would be exceptional.

After a year of being in Moustache almost everyday and him consuming my every pore, I am tired. Those niggly questions that all twenty-somethings are asking themselves float to the surface; what the hell am I doing? Why am I doing this? But mostly, who am I?

And now, with the start of 2014, I’m working very hard to knock a lot more of my Bucket List out of the park. This is the reason why I am traveling to America. Because, ladies and gents, I am going to Disneyland.

Yes, I’ve knocked the Cookie Shop one out and now it’s time to fulfill more of those dreams. “youngtrepreneur
business through young eyes: stories from the owner of Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar”

Check out her inspirational talk where she discusses how she worked through fear and little money to start the now successful Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Stand-Strong

How To Find Faith During Hard Times

“As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit.” – Emmanuel Teney 

“You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.” – Mary Manin Morrissey

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” – Paul Coelho

If deep struggle and discouragement didn’t exist since the beginning of time, then history wouldn’t have took the time to write the story of Job. During the times I feel most defeated, I think of Job’s Story often. Those thoughts usually transition into thinking of others who may have deeper sorrows than I may be experiencing at that moment. Because when we feel really low, we think really low. Our desires to speak negatively becomes first nature. The more bad thoughts, the more depression sinks in essentially making us feel empty.

The question is, how do we step away from the sorrow to see and feel the light? If there is one thing I know to be true, it is the scientific fact that we live and die, there is a time for succeeding and a time for losing, and no matter what we experience, things will always turn around and be okay.

Here Are A Few Things I Do To Keep My Faith When I Am At My Lowest Low:

Speak Positive Thoughts Aloud: When I am feeling defeated with warm tears streaming down my cheeks, I try my best to make room to hear the light within me. I repetitively speak positive affirmations aloud. I simply say things like, “I Have Nothing To Fear, Everything Will Be Okay. I Am Open To All The Goodness That Tomorrow May Bring. The Universe Is On My Side & The Creator Never Wants To See Me Down”.  I practice speaking different positive affirmations as a way to motivate my own spirit. Try saying this Amazing Positive Affirmation daily. It’s my absolute favorite. These positive affirmations can lead straight to prayer.

hardandclearWrite Down Your Fears: Writing down your burdens allows you to express your fears and doubts safely without being judged. Writing is another form of prayer. It helps you release the sadness while relieving your mind from heavy thoughts. When you write, be sure to jot down how you feel and follow it up with, “I trust you, (Creator). So be it!” This gives you confirmation that it will all turn around for the better because you trust it will.

Look To Your Supporters: The people you hold dear to you are the people who support you. You can talk to them about anything and know that they will give you words of encouragement. If you feel like you have little support from people then you can find support in a book, an inspirational website, positive music, therapy groups, or sometimes even a stranger. Be around those who operate out of love so you can feel the light that energy provides.

Trust Yourself: We can be our own worst enemy when our fears take over our minds. You must completely love and trust yourself. Speak highly of yourself hand remember that you are successful and have accomplished so much. We tend to forget we are accomplished in the midst of struggle. You must trust that good things will manifest itself once again and that these struggles are only temporary. Nothing is meant to stay the same forever but it can and will always get better. Be sure to count your blessings.

Everyday is a new opportunity for change and miracles. Be strong, full of faith, and let no situation or person make you feel that it is impossible. The Universe is conspiring for the things you want, ten fold. Believe it!

 

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You’re Never Too Old To Accomplish New Things (VIDEO)

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
– CS Lewis

The older we get, the more pressure some of us tend to put on ourselves. Whether it is our biological clocks ticking, or we are losing hair, we can’t stop thinking about where we are in life and wondering if we should be farther.

My advice, stop listening to bad influence on your shoulder and embrace the thought that everyday is another opportunity to make something happen. No one will ever be a master genius early in life. We must crawl before we walk and walk fast before we run.

Remember, no matter how old you are, you live. Live with a smile! Who knows what you will accomplish 30 plus years from now.

Where do you think you will be in 30 years?

Take a look at this short video highlighting some successful elders!