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Being Vulnerable

How The Courage To Be Vulnerable Can Change Your Life (VIDEO)

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” – Brené Brown

Ever since I could remember, I’ve been an open book. Some people consider that to be a weakness. I’ve come across so many people who are “private”, people who don’t want to speak about who they are or what their experience has been in order to protect themselves from the opinions of others and perhaps even themselves. We live in a world where we desire to “fit in”, we want the people we love to be proud of us and we have so many distractions that we can barely digest our deepest emotions. We become lost in a world that is so distracted by perfection that we lack love and concern for our feelings and soon, we don’t know what it is we feel unless we can speak about it.

So how do we practice vulnerability? How do we learn how to be honest with ourselves instead of being correct? How do we take on the courage to be vulnerable with ourselves in order to feel safe to be open with others?

Have The Courage To Be Honest With Yourself: I am sure you’ve all heard the saying before, “The Truth Shall Set You Free” When you are accepting of your emotions and your fears only then can you truly over come them. If you don’t confront what it is you are feeling, you can’t address it. Try talking about your fears to someone you feel comfortable with, someone who you believe won’t judge you this way you can come to terms with the feelings you are having. This isn’t necessarily because you need advice, but because you want to understand the depth of what you are feeling. 

Take Nothing Personally: We live in a world where people judge themselves. It is hard to find a spiritually strong person who loves themselves and are honest with others. It is important to understand that how people may react to your vulnerabilities is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. One of my favorite authors, Don Miguel Ruiz said, “Don’t take anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”

Prepare yourself to have the strength to be comfortable with your vulnerabilities. We are human and function the same way. No amount of money or confidence can take away anyones vulnerabilities. As a poet, I find that when I read my poetry to an audience, I am allowing people to relate and in turn they thank me for saying things that they couldn’t say. We are all experiencing different things. All scary and courageous things. Perhaps if we all start to be vulnerable, it may give people the courage to be vulnerable too. But remember, even if they aren’t at that emotional level of maturity, do not take it personally.

Practice Being Vulnerable: The more you practice being your true self, the easier it will become. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you have to tell everyone what you have been through, only the things that make you who you are. The things that you fear from time to time, and the things you’d like to discover in life. Be vulnerable in a positive way. 

Don’t miss this TED talk by Brené Brown. She is the author of Daring Greatly 

What would you like to get out of being vulnerable?

Don’t Stay Discouraged

 

Forward NOLAHave you ever been disappointed to the point of feeling defeated?

Naturally, we all have experienced sadness when we feel let down.  Although there is a universal rule not to have any expectations, we expect to get what we want, we expect to get what we feel we deserve. Some of us think negatively and don’t expect anything good. My advice is; forget the expectation!

Instead of expecting specific things we should think confidently that we will receive what our true intentions are. We should wish for the biggest goal in mind. Some of us wish for a specific person to marry, a specific company to be employed by, a specific place to travel to. My suggestion is to think happiness with your ideal partner, happiness with your ideal work environment, and happiness with your ideal adventure or journey.

Whatever your personal circumstance is remember these things:

1. When you feel discouraged, feel it. Shed a few tears if you must, accept your feelings and then think differently

2.  Most disappointments are beyond our understanding and usually for something greater. Don’t stay discouraged.

3. Let  go of thinking that because you didn’t get exactly what you wanted, you won’t get something greater in the long run.

4. Master detachment and use positive affirmations. The more you practice this, the more you will make this a habit. All you have to do is, let go of the disappointment of not getting exactly what you desired and instead say or write down that what you desire lies in a different opportunity that you aren’t aware of yet. By doing this you are detaching yourself from what you felt rejected or let down by, and you are speaking into existence in a confident manner that the Universe is preparing you for something greater.

5. Write down everything you are grateful for and then ask for confidence.

You don’t need to feel inadequate or unlucky. Everything happens for a reason and there is something more suited to your intentions. I didn’t always know this. I didn’t always believe this. I can truly say, I am happy for all of my past disappointments and even my current ones for I continue to get exactly what I need.

Don’t stay discouraged and remember, when life gives you lemons…