Category Archives: Inspirational Lectures

Positive and inspirational lectures. Includes TED talks and Creative Mornings

Being Vulnerable

How The Courage To Be Vulnerable Can Change Your Life (VIDEO)

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” – Brené Brown

Ever since I could remember, I’ve been an open book. Some people consider that to be a weakness. I’ve come across so many people who are “private”, people who don’t want to speak about who they are or what their experience has been in order to protect themselves from the opinions of others and perhaps even themselves. We live in a world where we desire to “fit in”, we want the people we love to be proud of us and we have so many distractions that we can barely digest our deepest emotions. We become lost in a world that is so distracted by perfection that we lack love and concern for our feelings and soon, we don’t know what it is we feel unless we can speak about it.

So how do we practice vulnerability? How do we learn how to be honest with ourselves instead of being correct? How do we take on the courage to be vulnerable with ourselves in order to feel safe to be open with others?

Have The Courage To Be Honest With Yourself: I am sure you’ve all heard the saying before, “The Truth Shall Set You Free” When you are accepting of your emotions and your fears only then can you truly over come them. If you don’t confront what it is you are feeling, you can’t address it. Try talking about your fears to someone you feel comfortable with, someone who you believe won’t judge you this way you can come to terms with the feelings you are having. This isn’t necessarily because you need advice, but because you want to understand the depth of what you are feeling. 

Take Nothing Personally: We live in a world where people judge themselves. It is hard to find a spiritually strong person who loves themselves and are honest with others. It is important to understand that how people may react to your vulnerabilities is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. One of my favorite authors, Don Miguel Ruiz said, “Don’t take anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”

Prepare yourself to have the strength to be comfortable with your vulnerabilities. We are human and function the same way. No amount of money or confidence can take away anyones vulnerabilities. As a poet, I find that when I read my poetry to an audience, I am allowing people to relate and in turn they thank me for saying things that they couldn’t say. We are all experiencing different things. All scary and courageous things. Perhaps if we all start to be vulnerable, it may give people the courage to be vulnerable too. But remember, even if they aren’t at that emotional level of maturity, do not take it personally.

Practice Being Vulnerable: The more you practice being your true self, the easier it will become. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you have to tell everyone what you have been through, only the things that make you who you are. The things that you fear from time to time, and the things you’d like to discover in life. Be vulnerable in a positive way. 

Don’t miss this TED talk by Brené Brown. She is the author of Daring Greatly 

What would you like to get out of being vulnerable?

Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

A Successful Business Started By A 21 Year Old With A Small Budget

“The most important thing was not that I didn’t know, but that I wasn’t afraid to find out.” – Deanna Yang

Deanna at Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Deanna at Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Deanna Yang was a 21 year old with little to no money, no family around, and met a couple of friends who believed in her dreams and helped her get a milk and cookie bar off of the ground. In November 2013 she opened her business, made some mistakes, and still kept going. She is a young lady who let go of stability and a full time job to follow her dreams although she had no idea what was going to happen. It amazes me to see how many creative people there are who hold so much determination and will stop at nothing  to follow their hearts.

 

One thing is for sure, when having a goal and a dream, it is important to get help from others. In order for anything to flourish, it needs more than one person. A house becomes a home with more than one person nurturing it, a business grows and expands with a team of people, it takes more than one person to start and raise a family, and even orange trees need water and sunlight to thrive. This is a world that becomes greater when we have one another. Be true to those who love you. Embrace & appreciate the little things that help us flourish.

Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

Here is an excerpt from her blog describing her determination and drive.

The very first thing on my Bucket List however, that a lot of you know about, was #1. Open a cookie shop. Whilst I am incredibly proud of Moustache & how far we’ve come in our first year of opening, I still feel like he is far from perfect…he’s currently only 2% of my version of perfection. Although I’m known to be incredibly harsh on myself. Despite being my baby and something I love & am proud of, I also feel like Moustache stole my soul and identity. Perhaps because his identity was the only one I had enough time to develop these past two years.

But I’m a sucker for all that airy-fairy shit. All that, wanting to be a better person, wanting to reach your potential and of course, chasing your dreams. Yep, I lap that stuff up because like I said, as a child, I promised myself that I would be exceptional.

After a year of being in Moustache almost everyday and him consuming my every pore, I am tired. Those niggly questions that all twenty-somethings are asking themselves float to the surface; what the hell am I doing? Why am I doing this? But mostly, who am I?

And now, with the start of 2014, I’m working very hard to knock a lot more of my Bucket List out of the park. This is the reason why I am traveling to America. Because, ladies and gents, I am going to Disneyland.

Yes, I’ve knocked the Cookie Shop one out and now it’s time to fulfill more of those dreams. “youngtrepreneur
business through young eyes: stories from the owner of Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar”

Check out her inspirational talk where she discusses how she worked through fear and little money to start the now successful Moustache Milk & Cookie Bar

how-to-tell-if-someone-is-lying

How To Notice When Someone Is Lying

“I always say the truth is best even when we find it unpleasant. Any rat in a sewer can lie. It’s how rats are. It’s what makes them rats. But a human doesn’t run and hide in dark places, because he’s something more. Lying is the most personal act of cowardice there is.” – Nancy Farmer

“A lie has no power whatsoever by its mere utterance; its power emerges when someone else agrees to believe the lie.” – Pamela Meyer

Founder and CEO of Calibrate, Pamela Meyer is an expert when it comes to deception detection. Calibrate was created to train professionals to spot deception during interviews by not only voice detection, but also in eye movements, body language, breathing patterns, and a pool of other ways one can show someone’s being deceptive. Calibrate is currently based in Washington DC and offers a customized curriculum or a private consultation. She is also the author of an amazing book, liespotting, which discusses different ways to tell someone is lying and how to take notice.

In this TED Lecture, Pamela Meyers explains that we are all liars and gives clear examples of infamous people who were caught lying while explaining different ways to detect it with videos and examples.